How to Do Something You Don’t Want or Even Hate Doing
Don’t think you’re the only one wondering how to do something you hate doing.
We’re all in this together.
No matter how ideal your life has become, there are things you have to do that you simply don’t want to do! So many of us turn into massive flakes at this point.
We often disappoint others in the process but let’s not forget what happens every single time we avoid doing something we need to do just because we don’t like doing it.
We lose self-respect.
It hurts you. If you know what should do something (excluding unnecessary, self-critical shoulds) but avoid taking action, you soil your soul with self-indulgence. Unhealthy self-indulgence lowers self-esteem and increases a sense of guilt and shame and worthlessness.
Not to get too heavy but when you give into hating some task – or even if you just don’t feel like doing it for any reason – say good-bye to an important little chunk of self-respect.Over time, avoiding what you hate but must do, takes a toll on your soul. Click To Tweet
The Ultimate Strategy for Doing Things you Hate to Do
A lot of us try to suck it up and just do it. If that works, OK. But here’s an alternative that doesn’t involve negative feelings or any form of emotional self-torture. Let’s get to it!
Once you become aware of the task at hand, then follow the steps below.
Take a deep breath. Actually, take four long, deep breaths before you worry about anything else. Get your body to relax. When you deliberately breathe deeply, it sends all the right signals to your brain. No danger. Relax.
Answer this all-important question: Why are you lucky to get to do this task?
Because you are.
Resenting a task comes from a self-victimized perspective. So, you have to do the dishes. You’re lucky to have a roof over your head and food to eat. Those dirty dishes are the sign of a full belly and so many people in the world would trade you places in a heartbeat.
You get what I mean. Find your gratitude. Forget the task. Change your mindset to one of gratitude.
Next, imagine how you will feel when the task is done. Pretty good, right? Moreover, think of the tiny bit of self-respect you’ll gain. It’s so important to consider the end result of your efforts before beginning.
Then, to borrow a term from Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), chunk it down. What is the first, teeny-tiny step you need to take? Doing the dishes? Why not encourage yourself to stand in front of the kitchen sink? Then, do one dish. You can stop anytime you want!
Feel the momentum. You’re already taking action. Keep taking it, one step at a time. And immerse yourself in the task. Forget everything else. Just be present with your activity.
Finally, celebrate your success – even if it’s a tiny success and you celebrate it in a tiny way. A mental pat on the back will do.
Hey! We just linked gratitude and productivity! And it works. Who knew? On the flip-side, you might also consider that resisting what you must do, in all your resentment, raises cortisol levels. And that takes a toll on your health.
I’d start with deep-breathing and gratitude, ending with that mental pat on the back:)